Presbyterian | Spring 2021 | Your Story

Caregiver, care for thyself Being a caregiver is one of life’s most challenging and rewarding responsibilities. Whether you’re caring for a friend or a family member, much of your time is likely focused on that person. You might often feel like there’s no time in the day for yourself. That’s a common feeling among caregivers. According to the Family Caregiver Alliance (FCA), caregivers are less likely than others to take care of themselves. Caregivers are more likely to be sleep-deprived. They’re more likely to have unhealthy eating habits. They’re less likely to stay in bed when they’re ill, and they are more likely to put off medical appointments for themselves. Three positive places to start You’ve probably heard it before: You can’t take care of others if you don’t take care of yourself. In fact, self-care is one of the most important things you can do as a caregiver, according to the FCA. To begin moving in a healthier direction, focus on these steps: 1. Understand and accept your feelings. Sadness. Guilt. Anger. Caregivers may run this gamut of feelings in a week—or maybe even in the same day. If you feel this way, know that it’s a normal reaction to your situation. Talking with other caregivers may help, so look for a support group in your area. You might also ask your doctor to refer you to a counselor. 2. Find ways to de-stress daily. How much pressure you’re under depends on your situation. Some stress is normal for caregivers, but red flags like irritability, sleeping problems, and forgetfulness mean it’s taking an unhealthy toll. Find what works for you—for instance: ● Make time every day to go for a walk, preferably with a friend if that makes you feel even better. Exercise is a great way to reduce stress. ● Nurture yourself with your favorite activities. For you, perhaps that means a warm bath, reading, yoga, or visiting with a friend. ● Prioritize your rest. ● Do something for yourself every day—even if it’s something small. 3. Ask for a helping hand. Think of reaching out for assistance as a caregiving strength, not a weakness. A few tips: ● Make a list of specific things that need to be done (cooking, cleaning, shopping, yardwork, child care, elder care). Show friends and family members the list, and ask what they might help with. ● Tap into others’ strengths and talents. For example, maybe your neighbor is a great cook and would be happy to prepare nutritious freezer meals for you. ● Avoid watering down your request. Instead of saying “This is only a thought, but would you ...,” state your request as, “I would like to take a walk from 10 to 11 a.m. Can you stay with my mom?” Additional source: National Cancer Institute www.phs.org/centennialcare 3 The FCA offers support for caregivers. Call 1-800-445-8106 , or visit www.caregiver.org .

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